single and going on 30......

I dont know why i think about blogging only when i feel so alone ????? Coming back from my previos post...It was an amazing wedding season...Had too much fun...Two of closest people are married and voila all the pressure on me to tie the knot...hahahaha

Touching 30 and single i guess is the worst thing a woman can ever do...Let me rephrase that...its the worst thing an Indian woman can do....suddenly you feel guilty of having your parents under pressure ..your friends only keep talking about you enrolling your name on a matrimonial site and i think that all girls face the same dilemma and go through a marriage sometimes only to keep their family's name in society and to prove that she can get a guy to get married. But is that right ??Its like jumping in the sea if you are husband turns out to be good...amazing..your lucky and by chance if not...you have 2 options

1. stay in and ADJUST

2. get divorced and single again but be ready for some weird looks and society stigma

You would say : why the f**k do we care about the damn society ....Let them think what they want to ...

I've thought about it, I think we dont worry about society...We worry about disappointing our parents in society ...every time a relative says...so wats your daughter doing...OHH not married yet ???!!?? Kya hua??

I think we dont want to hurt them....

I am in the same dilemma...My guy left me after 10 years when i was 28...For no fault of mine...but i doubt he has to hear that much about his single-hood than what i have to hear......why this gender bias ..cant we enjoy our single-hood as well....i dont know whether not disappointing my loved ones is more important than my freedom, my emotions and my will...I feel so trapped that i dont know what to do....why should girls be blamed if they are committed...why isn't the same yardstick applied for boys...In out stereo type society a 50 year old single man is seen as responsible who did not have time to get married and a 50 year old woman ...ppl will say.."zaroor kuch jhol kiya hoga...typical society.......and THE ETERNAL QUESTION :should i succumb to the pressure and tie the knot...or stay single (and happy if i may add) and get married only if i get a guy whom i truly love and who loves me......DECISION PENDING

SHOPPING and vada pav !!

So on saturday, my bestie...due to be tied in the realms of marital bliss this november called me regarding her wedding prep...she sounds so excited that it is just contagious...its just weddings and weddings..my cousin is also getting married this jan..this year is gonna end with a bang...there was this vivah 2013 bridal exhibit in JWM and had gone to check out the designs....we packed ourselves in her vehicle and wat an exhibition !!! Just going to exhibition makes me wanna get married..the clothes, the photos  the jewellery :-)

There were designers exhibiting products like lehenga sarees and ghagras at cheaper rates. .. i mean imagine designer wear for 25 K....tired from there, we went toMumbai's most famous vada pav stall opp mithibai college.. their pipping hot vadas which is think is only served here with butter...for just rs 15/-
We completed the meal with veg cheese sandwiches for 80/- but is easily enough for 2 ppl...having a complete meal for Rs 55/- ...lolz..i dont think nutritous tho ...

Still finalizing on the sangeet function..Stay tuned for more on the wedding and its prep....

getting back.....

Its so strange and its such a small world....the one person who inspired me to write again does not even know me...well !! its just that was researching some guy and he had a blog and thot " you know wat..i had one" just forgot about it !!..after 3 years am back again !!

and so much has happened in these 3 years....3 years back everything looked planned and settled.. had a boyfriend of 7 years and nice job ..wen i was young i had lots of love, friends but no money and we used to actually struggle and now with gods grace have enough money but love,friends..dunno...

I mean i do have friends and some very sweet friends but each one is so engrossed in their lives that we just dont have the time...the love of my life is having second thoughts and so am I .. i mean after 10 years if there is a rethink .. are we a habit for each other..wher is the love???Is it that you have to be together if you were together for 10 years..Is it the fear of being alone??is being alone that bad a thing..u get to hear the normal stuff..you are 28, you have to get married..no one will get married to you..i mean BIG DEAL...i dont want to go in for any tom,dick and harry just because we HAVE to get married...I want a guy who cares for me and is practical in life..Is that so difficult ??Will i remain single..will i get married??i dont know..but have decided that will get married only if someone is worth spending my life with or will prefer staying alone..and will advise all the girls the same..Its better to stay alone and enjoy than to be caught in a relation where you have to keep sacrificing !!! so long then...tadaaa

The Start

Yes ...This is gonna be me ...Totally me ....Only me and no one else...My life..My ups and downs...what better way to get the world know me and me to know me....hope to keep updating it time and again

First about myself...

Born in the city of dreams in Mumbai,India...spent 26 years of my life the best i can..Working for a private company as a Team lead and yes do not have the headache of a husband yet...Have tried to live life to the fullest...very cliche i know..would post everythin..my views on topics,restaurants,vacations and maybe marriage !!Stay tuned !!